this thread is specifically for the middle-aged woman who loves to talk about her relationship story.
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Oops I misspelled the thread title lol
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should i ever need to say thanx? it seems like i was just dropped here like 島流し
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You are very welcome :) Now you can talk about your story as much as you want here!
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You really are a gender segregated nation after all. I thought it was the Arabs who do that.
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Well she deserves this because she destroyed the original chat thread. Just look at that! You'll know why
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Are you a closet gay or something? You cannot stand women like
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>>You cannot stand women like??????
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Like what?
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ending a sentence with "like" is Geordie-speak
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Whatever
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I was reading through blind date thread for men but they are all complaining about they never had a chance to get married with beautiful women They weren`t that attractive to those women Pretty women really dont like guys who are too pushing because they are always treated like that and they`re quite bored. lol
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It`s funny to see that natural born pretty women tend to choose someone with really nice personality instead of his conditions. I asked them why and they all replied b/c those guys seemed to have no interest about her and it was pretty shocking. Those guys seemed to have no interest about them but actually they already gave up at the first sight, thinking that they`ll never have a chance. So modest. But look at guys screaming girl`s appearance...they are damn ugly
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Tell me what celeb you look like.
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I guess she looks like a mitsuura yasuko! Actually she is not that ugly
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True. She's kinda cute when I'm drunk.
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I dont even look like her I have received two offers for my next job and I have no interested at all of what I used to do for living It`s my first time in career that I can`t even pick up the phone b/c Im so sick to hear about the job info Did I really collapse? Or am I starting my new life from now on
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I used to have these dreams, which really sounds stupid so I hid them and never tried to express them and I totally forgot My parents were always very good about making me say whatever they want to hear, instead of hearing what I want to say. I had repressed my feelings all the times and I even thought that expressing myself would end up making my parents get annoyed or confused But I always knew that something wasn`t right b/c I really had hard time loving others
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I had been reading books day after day trying to find missing puzzle or missing words which I really need them to live. It was very shocking to face the reality. Maybe my parents mistreated me and maybe I should have had much more better life than this. At first my parents never admit about their mistakes so I left the house The conversation was totally a disaster, when it gets deeper, they tried to defend themselves but hardly ever imagined what I`d been carrying for years, alone
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I wanted their attention so bad. What I did was to make them satisfy, killing what I really wanted to do. Never expressed them b/c they felt it stupid and worthless. I was only a child, and I was not allowed to talk about my dream. They say something like, " you can eat with that" to a very young girl. Sometimes, when I`m alone, I have imagined many things, other times, I just studied really hard, morning to midnight. The time where I talk to myself was the only pleasure I had and I felt secure as long as other don`t know about it
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It took a quite a time for me to finally understand that my parents are also imperfect being, like me. We all have different characters, even if I am their child, Myself belong to me. Somehow, they were not mature enough to understand that one`s life don`t belong to them and there are a lot of people with different characters. I had many difficulties but I am so glad that I had my family, who made me learn many things seriously. There were full of love, which I received from them but eventhough they`re my parents, there`s a limit
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I think it is so absurd to think that one knows everything like God. I prefer to think that we all do have limit for every single thing we do In that way, you have less chance hurting others with unconcious brutal act If we are a perfect human, then there is exactly no need to meet other people and get influenced Sometimes, I think God is very sad because he is so alone, for being perfect Isn`t that why he made man and woman? I always wondered why he made Eve
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Because Adam complained to him, saying," Father,I hate to say this but I'm sick and tired of doing fap fap fap wth my right hand. You should give me another way."
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Be more romantic lol God will be like, "you fool, but it`s okay, I`ll create something that I call a female" But what if Adam said, " Father, I hate to say this but she`s not my type " or like " Father, I want more Eve " That`s our society is like today...(^_^;)
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It is not like that at all. First of all there is NO GOD. But, there are lots of Adams and Eves who are just hormone driven animals. The fornicate and move on to the next. They are promiscuous and selfish. Where do you fit in this equation? It is not your looks or personality. It is your hormones. Your glands are not on the same energy level as theirs. But that is not the only obstacle. You have extremely rigid thoughts. Can't do this, won't do that. That limits your actions severely. These are the main reasons why you cannot take the next step and fly away. If you gonna make a change, you have to be flexible. Otherwise you will stay put like this forever and ever.
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I`ll try to be flexible when I start to feel that Im getting narrow-minded but not now. I really don`t have that energy to do so
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I'm home now. Frankly speaking, I've read a lot of your posts so far and I'm in a state of so- called "jyouga uturu" to you. I don't know how you say that in Engish. The only thing I can do is to pray for your happiness. ...from a middle-aged man.
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Thanx It`s not only me who had gone thru these things Some people I knew suffered so much from materialistic behaviors of their parents. Those are the parents who really tried to consider about their children in their own way. Although, for some children, they are all overwhelmed by too much pain and fear. We rushed things so quickly, and those were really important for Japan to recover from disaster but killed many emotions at the same time
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Ironically, you are a magnet for stinky ossans like poop with flies over it. Of course I'm also a stinky ossan.
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LOL
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Do you know what. That stinky smell helps women to get pregnant Believe or not, it`s already proved scientifically When we have R, women need to feel that she doesn`t want to R with this person If you like this man, it`s really hard to get pregnant, somehow There are a lot of couples who are in love with no baby. Ironic, isn`t it?
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It is really interesting to see that some girls get pregnant with a guy that they only like a little bit. A man has to chase after woman, and if they have a chance, they should make them pregnant, so girls marry you For men, not taking bath for 3 days before R is so important So he can make his gf pregnant but many are refused to have R before it happens lol I see why guys are much more ugly than women hahaha
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When the owner of a cat, she tries to mate a cat with well trained cat, this female cat doesn`t like sophisticated male cat at all Instead, a female cat chose a stray cat with no training or anything It is likely to get pregnant that way Sophisticated men tend to be gay, i guess Maybe stinky is sign of a stray cat
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The man's armpit releases pheromones which is a broadcast sign of their health and genetics. Then women decide if he is good or not. It all happens in a *flash~*. the evolutionary motives behind the decision making is of scientific interest.
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I guess a man who knows what he wants in life is more likeley to be biRual. Because he has no inhibitions for plesure, he learns faster and he is more sophisticated than the stright men. What do you think.
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GOD HATES FAGS
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>>34 Let`s say that stinky ones are always ready to make women pregnant lol
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>>35 I never seen bi in my life so I can not say anything but when I read through threads and honestly, it was disgusting! I was like what!? omg,omg,omg... and imagining that penis also stick into myself...it must be a great exploration The gays are okay, they can do whatever they want to do with their lives but bi is very scary to me. I dont like poops or some other hole which is not a normal hole That thing stays virgin until I die, I swear.
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Wow so many bigots here
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If your man is a receiver in his gay relationship? What does that have to do with you? You won't notice anything right?
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>>40 There are 2 things Im worried about bi disease obsession to a certain hole
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If he is the receiving end with his male partner and he is in a straight relationship with you, you only have the disease to worry about. Am I wrong?
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>>42 Good morning I don`t know about bi. People really dont need to think about bi, because I think that there are only few of them. Maybe we should be careful more for gay. They can marry a woman w/o letting the partner know about it.
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>>42 Im not so strict about men`s adultry but these days there are a lot of risks, including HIV. Unlike other countries, Japanese HIV is rising like developing countries Making family is having children so we have got to be responsible for that but maybe bi`s curiosity makes me very scared. I`d never been raised without adults or parents I think some people really have this very strong, unstoppable nature. I don`t want to get involved with that thing
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It is so much better to work outside I got so fatigued by divorce and other things but I`m recovering It is so nice to have my own thread that some fagot gave to me lol Today I saw a dream that my grandfather was just there watching me from behind and he did say nothing but he waved his hand and tell me to go on He was smiling like he always used to smile at me
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I was passing this very icy hallway and I grab a door so I don`t fall but I cut myself so deep that I could see thru my bone and it was bleeding so much. I cried and I woke up I bought this book about meaning of a dream. It said that bleeding is a good dream that I`m willing to start a new thing
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It could be PMS.
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I think that dreams consist of a variety of experiences you've gone through so far. And then those things mix with your worries and anxiety. So they have nothing to do with fortune telling.
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>>48 Some people say it`s stupid to believe fortune telling but not always but sometimes it helps me to go forward I have so much fun dreaming about many things Since I got divorced, I`d seen many deads in the dreams I see I swim together with my pets, they`re all passed away, they were having so much fun and so healthy. My grandpa and my pets, they never talked but showed many emotions, just looking at me. I miss them so much(;_;)
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I read the traditional Japanese stories and I really liked Susanoo. Did you know that Amaterasu was once a hikki!? She was deeply hurt because she trusted her own brother, Susanoo, but his action betrayed her so she became hikki. By the way, Susanoo, is a very simple minded and he easily gets his temper, no one accepted his behavior, except his older sister, Amaterasu. Although, he finally found the place to live, where his personality fits, and where everybody wishing for a man like Susanoo, in Izumo by annihilating a monster, which eats human
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He got this beautiful wife and had very clever daughter, a princess Suseri, a very beautiful and having a personality like his older sister, Amaterasu. She then met Ohnamuchi, the very yougest among gods. In the ancient, they were really funny that it seems when people fall in love, they just got married.
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She took Ohnamuchi to introduce to her father, Susanoo. Susanoo never liked his son in law because unlike Susanoo, he was soft and sophisticated Also he was liked by women, unlike Susanoo, also taking away his daughter probably made Susanoo really mad. And so, he asked Ohnamuchi to do him a favor, which are so mean and cruel But everytime, a Princess Sumeri helped him out. Stories go on blah blah blah...
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At the very end these couples planned and runaway together and Susanoo finally accepts his defeat He screams outloud, it`s the way he celebrate their marriage. His expression is always wild Susanoo is kind of alcoholic and he loves talking about his victory in the past, like elderly do sometimes lol
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I hate someone who pushes one`s opinion to others, not aware of it`s only their own OPINION. I`d been brainwashed by so many things, such as religion, family problem, and others things. I don`t feel lost when someone only know that it`s their own opinion but they push them thru. I get so upset and confused when one tells me, " that`s what others do " I really liked a word, " mind your own business " " what`s the matter with your life! don`t you got nothing to do but worry about my thing?" I hope I can say this is Japan!
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Quite impossible... Especially, I used to be in a rural, a very country-side in Japan with my ex-husband. This BBA, they`d always asked me where Im going everytime I went out. When I was in the house, watching TV, BBA came into my house w/o my approval...She was just inside my house... I have not much thing to say about this...It`s just that i couldn`t believe my eyes!
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BBA stands for Bachelor of Business Administration
I hardly can not believe what student of Kobe University done in USJ In my hometown, a national university is something really meaningful I understand there will be couple of students who fail but what he had done is something which is very very very ugly What he did was something so disgraceful and I was really disgusted to hear the news. I really hope University threw him out from school when they`re ready and show some respect to a place where people learn things for future
>>59 you sick minded asshole. It was summer so I let my windows open, with curtain closed. I was wearing only petticoat. No one ever imagine someone entering the house from the window without saying nothing I was really suprised. Just like seeing a ghost
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can you ever imagine someone standing there in your bedroom? when you open the door, she was just standing there! Since that incident I always had to put on air conditioner on all the time Eventhough I dont like air conditioner
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I ate bamboo shoot
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This thread is getting more and more exciting Carry on please. >>56 Hilarious! So what really is a BBA, motherin law? grandma in law? Why was she following you? Why the air conditioner oh you confused me terribly.
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Even a heroine in a suspense drama "Kasasu" may be surprised by the situation. Generally, the plot to this type of story goes as follow The BBA had grudge agaist the heroine for some reason, which is gradually revealed as the drama goes on, and she decided to take revenge on the heroine. As the first step, the BBA had to discover her whereabouts and approach her. to be continued....
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>>62 I love bamboo shoot. It`s everywhere in the market and I feel spring has come >>63 Hello there. I think a place I used to live with my ex was so and very country-side People were so obssessed about their neighbors, especially neighbors who are not one of them I used to have a friend, who she also was from outside the town, moving in with her husband complaining about the same thing. That people are really annoying asking everything about her family The same thing happened to me also and never ended until the several years past I leave the town
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There is no reason for that, I guess. I could not even wear cool dress over there. Just so plain and simple. So I always put some clothes in our car and changed in the restroom. They`ll be spreading rumors all over if I wear something nice. Many men became alone b/c their spouses got neurose and left the town. Few days ago, I watched tv, and it said that town is suffering from severe population decrease of young people. Im like ofcourse, do something with those BBA, young and old. They love stereo type so much I mean I do that sometimes but that much! By the way, Bachlor something was not my idea, someone else did!
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SORRY correction! but "NOT" that much! Unlike other countries, we have air conditioner in every room. It`s very hot and humid in the summer but I prefer automatic fan than air conditioner. There is something that we call Sudare, which shuts sunlight but wind will come in and I put on automatic fan I drink a lot of water and take a bath. But if the temperature raises so much, I put on the air conditioner on. Having too much air condtioner is not that healthy. Although, it`s very comfortable inside. But I don`t usually turn it on 24 hrs a day
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we have the air conditioner in each room we need, is much more better to explain Some rooms we dont have air conditioner, like the rooms that we dont use much
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I am addicted to this thread please go on ... Air conditioning, because it was too hot, you were in petticoat and this BBA woman comes through the window? Saying "what are you up to?"? It is understandable that people who have never left heir home town are very curious to the point of obsession. They spy on you because they are exploring THEIR life through yours.
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>>69 maybe that`s so true! they were asking so many questions, even tiny little things lol i was like omg! just leave me alone I`ve learned never to say Hi! because they keep on asking you so many questions! It was just unbelievable! So when I was watching few young people carefully, many were just nodding like a pigeon and moving so so quickly while they pass thru some annoying neighbors Wish I knew that technique before I got caught
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「花の色は うつりにけりな いたづらに わが身世にふる ながめせしまに」 小野小町 古今集 "The colours of the flowers changed it`s phase, losing the days, as I, the spoiled luxurious time passed between us two together, a long spring rain falls, while I sunk into deep memoir" Ono Komachi from Kokin-shu I couldn`t find no translation for this can somebody help me to translate this I want to send this to my friend I love poem so much, especially Komachi
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I know it`s something so different. Especially the last phase Im really confused with vocab and phrases
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it`s not memoir...i don`t know how to express this maybe a sleep will help me to find a good expression im a neet so I got a plenty of time to think before I start to worrrrrrrrk
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>>73 I'm a native English speaker, poems are difficult for me to understand, so: If you can post the rough idea of the expression you are looking for, I can try to find the best match. However, it will not be a true translation. I trust you will find the correct term.
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>>74 thank you so much i was searching thru internet then finally found English translation though it was not that perfect. It never mentioned about the spring rain Japan has this beautiful 4 seasons. After the very cold days, we feel that Spring has arrived, with little moist in the air, there comes warmth of Spring rain. The spring rain is the vapor and the feeling of their relationships
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Japanese poems are more like misty, covered with clouds. You don`t actually read them, you sense them using your images It is said that showing itself fully is not Japanese culture Show only few or some but all the rest if your sense and images That`s our traditional style If spring rain is not mentioned then you can`t sense it That`s what I feel But it mentioned about the rain, and this poem was inside the catagory of Spring so maybe it is okay.
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Yeah, it can also apply to a girl's panty. We call it "chirarizum" as a Japanese coined word. We men are more excited when we catch a glimpse of her panty under skirt than when we see it directly without any obstacle. Imagination! What a wonderful power!
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Absolutely! Back then, women was behind a bamboo curtain and men could only see her shadow or a candle light showing only little thing about her Every women had their own scent from "Oko" (incense) Ofcourse, when they had relationships it seemed to be different
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I think the passage I've just written is not logically good. It is better to put the second sentence between the forth and the last.
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There were so many scenes, which I really liked from "the Story of Genji" but I think the scene with fireflies are the best! Tamakazura was behind a silk curtain, Genji released bunch of fireflies while a suitor saw her shadow appears as the fireflies blinked around her It was beginning of the Summer, with heavy moist in the air, with lots of rain all day. Also the season for beautiful and colorful, mostly blue, hydrangea It`s sad. I used to go watch fireflies and hydrangea with my ex-husband in May I love May
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>>79 Anyone? sorry, I dont know much about grammer
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>>81 I talked to myself. It was a monolouge. So it has nothing to do with you.
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I found beautiful temples! The temples and hydrangea flower match so much Temples of hydrangea flower in May www.youtube.com/watch?v=NR0SLLQr6RI Once I heard there used to be very beautiful temple of hydrangea flower somewhere in Hyogo but I couldn`t find that place The lighter the air, the more vivid color of the hydragea flower, I heard
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Actually, these flowers will bloom around end of May - June Depending on where you live
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I remember a passage in "Makurano soushi", which was an eassy authored by Sei Shounagon. It goes as follow; dawn is best in spring, night is best in summer, twilight is best in autumn and early morning is best in winter.
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>>85 She was so splendid We were forced to memorize some phrases from this book, when we were really young don`t you remember that? It`s suprising that I still can say some, without reading Now, I can`t remember anything...my poor brain...
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I ate waravi
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>>86 Please don't talk to me. I've never talked with someone in English, I mean in a spoken language. so I cannot respond to your post so quickly, whick makes me feel a bit pressure. I sometimes come here just to practice in writing English.
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Waravi contains a cancer-causing agent
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I think cancers are similar to humans. They rebel agaist the harmony of human body's mechanism while humans are, in a sense, against the order of nature. For example, They have created new atoms such as..I've forgot what it is called, which have never existed under natural conditions.
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>>89 I never knew that >>90 I am no expert about cancer or anything but I read that Western practice tries to take away all the cancers, while Eastern practice don`t take them all, instead they try to fix the original cause of the cancer by taking time I thought that was so...I read a book such a long time ago and I don`t remember much
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My mom had a bad knee, with liquid inside. She had gone to a hopital so many times, so a doctor take a liquid out from her knee but it never recovered Although, one day, our neighbor told us that there are really nice Kanpo clinic, so then she visited a doctor. It took around half a year but her knee is never filled with liquid again. But in Japan, we cannot use insurance for Kanpo, so it`s expensive
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And around my neighbor, there is a very famous Kanpo clinic for a diet So many people succeeded. It spread thru rumors. But I heard it`s also pretty expensive.
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I see lemons everywhere in the store I really love lemonade I made lemons sliced and poured honeys into it and put in the refrigerator for couple days. It really goes well with some alcohol There is also an alcohol mixed with lemons Lemon is the best match with steamed chicken with vegetables, I think Also goes so well with raw salmon, maybe little burned put some lemon and it taste so good! I found lemon sauce which goes so well with sliced beef
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i like guacamole
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>>95 This week I saw that guacamole in Costoco I didn`t buy it but how do you eat them? do you dip vegetables? or put it on crackers?
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or maybe with white meat of a fish? or dip it on a toast or sandwich?
What do we keep memories? I don`t need no pictures to remember them I have many memories which are so like trash, but they are so luxurious My last 10 years, I`d been in love with ex. Never I understood many music lyrics and novels this much. They came penetrating into my heart so directly in my life. As if my vains of a soul are tasting every bit of its spices in desperate thirst and grimming with satisfaction Alcohol is getting bitter, as I get old, with pain which surrendered myself in a sweet defeat
